HURT

Introduction

            Pain is inevitable while suffering is optional.

A mother delivers a child. She undergoes a lot of pain during the delivery but the experience is joyful for the mother.

            On the other hand an unmarried girl cheated, abused, and carries an illegitimate (without father) child. 

At the end of the 3^rd month she undergoes abortion. She has no pain but she will suffer her whole life.

Viktor Frankl “If you have a why you can go with any how.”

On a personal note

1.   Who am I ?

Don’t expect to search for the root of your problems.

You will be discouraged or you will be joyful respectively.

2    Those under my care will make mistakes, it is upto me to be exemplary.

(Regularly)/ Invariably you will be hurt.

     Ways in which you could get hurt:

a.     Emotionally  :           Physical hurt + more

           

b.     Physical         :           Injury, inflammation, disfunction, disease, 

    A cut/ bruise (on your body)          

c.      Social hurt    :           Getting hurt through social events.

Eye witness account of an accident, you still feel the pain.

How people relate to Hurt:

1)    ‘Its’ all in your head. Think that there is no pain and you won’t feel pain.

2)    ‘Grin and bear it’ endure it as if that’s a valid solution.

3)    ‘Take it personally’ – Take it as a personal insult (Personal remark)

4)    Take Personal Responsibility.

Steps

1)    Define your hurt (Identify and understand)

By self reflection/ examination.

Go to the root of everything (Why am I hurt?)

People prefer to remain in an abusive state rather than acknowledge their      hurt.

2)    Express that pain    :           To get it all out.

Tell it to the person

Write it in a journal.

Write a letter and burn it.

3)    Stop retelling the story:    When you tell it to others                 you want to say that

·           You didn’t deserve it.

·           You didn’t do anything wrong.

In retelling you get stuck. The memory of pain hurts you.

4)    Forgive yourself:                (Isaiah 55:7)

St. Augustine of Hippo says “God hates sin but He loves sinners.”

Conclusion

·        Why all this happens because you are scared.

·        A hurting person has been hurt before and will get easily hurt by people in the future.

·        There will always be somebody who adores everything about you and says only nice things about you and some who hate everything about you and has nothing nice to say about you.

·        This means I’m neither a God or a Devil.